When it is Good Not to Talk

If our intention is to understand, to share for feedback, to find a way through, then that is what we will achieve. If our intention is let everybody know how bad it is, then we are just reinforcing how bad we feel and how badly we feel life treats us. If we keep on talking about it, keep on telling our story, we may also be achieving our unconscious intention of avoiding our emotions altogether. [...]

July 24th, 2010 | Category: Accepting our Feelings, Changing Mistaken Beliefs, Defence Mechanisms - How We Avoid, Emotions, Habit Patterns, Newsletters, Problem Solving, Resistance - Avoidance, Setting Intentions, Subconscious - Habit Mind, Transformational Communication | Leave a comment

Facing Life’s Challenges

Moving beyond our comfort zone, seeing challenges as opportunities, helps us gain more skills and confidence. Resisting the discomfort of stretching ourselves intensifies the feeling of discomfort. We have a range of resistance strategies. [...]

November 16th, 2009 | Category: Accepting our Feelings, Challenges are Opportunities, Defence Mechanisms - How We Avoid, Newsletters, Resistance - Avoidance | Leave a comment

The Path of Least Resistance

We all have a range of strategies to avoid our deeper feelings. These come up strongly when we are asked to show up in our lives, to step forward to deeper, more committed relationships or to more success. Recognising the strategies we use, can help us to bust them or at the least handle them better while we discover the patterns beneath them. [...]

November 16th, 2009 | Category: Accepting our Feelings, Defence Mechanisms - How We Avoid, Newsletters, Personal Development Process, Resistance - Avoidance | Leave a comment

Who’s to Blame For Failures?

Blame completely holds our lives back. It reduces our power and confidence to deal with relationships or situations in our lives and keeps them in place. As we mature we become response-able and can let go of blame. [...]

November 16th, 2009 | Category: Accountability, Being a Victim, Blame & Judgement, Defence Mechanisms - How We Avoid, Newsletters, Personal Development Process, Powerlessness, Problem Solving, Resistance - Avoidance, Responsibility | 3 comments

Knowledge, Vision, Action

That ‘The Secret’ founders have recently started to address failings in the process of manifesting success, abundance and happiness comes as no surprise. The possibilities of manifesting have long been part of Psychology of Vision and Life Manual, where the aim has always been to help people achieve their natural powers. [...]

October 22nd, 2009 | Category: Being a Victim, Blame & Judgement, Changing Mistaken Beliefs, Habit Patterns, Manifesting Your Future, Newsletters, Subconscious - Habit Mind, The Secret | 2 comments