Many of us experience times when problems or life events are going round and round in our minds, and we feel buried in our emotions. Sometimes, we may share the confusion with a friend or partner and find clarity and a release of the emotional charge. Then there are times when we keep telling everyone how bad it is, and it doesn’t feel any better. What is the difference between these two occasions?
This is a great example of the power of intention. If our intention is to understand, to share for feedback, to find a way through, then that is what we will achieve. If our intention is let everybody know how bad it is, then we are just reinforcing how bad we feel and how badly we feel life treats us. If we keep on talking about it, keep on telling our story, we may also be achieving our unconscious intention of avoiding our emotions altogether.
I always think of this, humorously, as a headless chicken syndrome, someone running around clucking to anyone who will listen, and getting absolutely nowhere. It generally tends to exhaust the rest of the flock, and even if the intention is to receive comfort or support, the clucker is unlikely to get it, as everyone is scurrying out of their way. When you find yourself clucking, it is time to stop, take stock and discover your intention.
Discovering Your Intentions
This is where the “If you were to know …” questions used in Psychology of Vision, are so powerful. They take us beneath the conscious mind, what we think is going on, to the old patterns and programmes being played in our subconscious. I find that as soon as I ask those questions, my whole mind stills, and I can sense the access to my inner being. It’s like slipping beneath the chicken or ego mind, to the peace beneath.
Talking to ourselves, we need to rephrase. For example, “If I were to know, what is it that I am really wanting from this situation?” or “If I were to know, what is really going on for me right now?”, or “If I were to know, what do I really need right now to help in this situation?”
Often, when we can see what we were really trying to achieve, we can bust ourselves, and see the humour in the situation. If you feel embarassed or guilty, let it go, we all play headless chickens from time to time.
If there is a strong emotional charge … a past event or pattern is being triggered … and if you are in touch with your emotions, you will feel it when you ask your subconscious mind or Higher Power what is going on. Often, headless chicken routines are resistance routines, ways of running away from our feelings. With this understanding, you are then ready to … cont’d
…Set Your Intentions
What do you really want or need? A hug? Clarity to see a way through the problem or dilemma? Then ask a trusted someone who is truly available to you, for that help. …
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