What Does 'Success' in Personal Change Mean?

Life Manual Newsletter No. 9

Years ago, I read books that told me how wonderful life and the world could be. It gave me hope that my inner yearnings weren’t just ‘pie in the sky’. From time to time, as I worked through various personal development or change programmes, I would read them again, to reignite my hope or to grab hold again of a dream that was slipping away. I think it is very important to have that reassurance. So, I went off to the park the other morning, and sat amongst the magnolias, to think what does ‘success’ in personal change mean? What have I truly achieved in pursuing the Psychlogy of Vision model of change and healing? We are all unique, and we all have different ideas for what success in our lives means. For some it is relationships, for others it is abundance or maybe inner peace. Perhaps it is best summed up as the ability to create the life you want, to pursue what is important to you and enjoy it.

It isn’t some kind of permanent bliss, although feeling blissfully happy and content is definitely a feature. You will feel more connection with your higher mind, or however you envision your wiser self, and trust that everything that comes up for you, is just the right thing at the right time. You will be learning to trust that the Universe is working for you, not out to get you. I love the image that all good things are always pouring upon us, it’s just that some of us have our umbrellas up!

Keeping the End in Sight

I can only truly say what it is for me. I offer it as a motivation or to reinforce your belief in what is possible for you. I am happy with who I am, and how I am living in the world. I do what I love doing, writing and teaching. The last few months, I have put together websites, made videos, written these newsletters and many other articles, and am on my second children’s book. Money has never been high on my agenda, but nowadays, there is always enough. I live with a great view in a home full of light, which is important to me. My family are in great shape, wowing me with their next steps and achievements. I am not rich or famous, but I haven’t asked for that! Maybe I will for the next step.

What I have, is what I wanted most, the reason I resolved and cleared the negative habits and stories of the past. These include:

• Long and frequent times and days of peacefulness, joy and content.
• A sense of connection to all that is
• A love that flows in, through and around me
• A frequent feeling of deep gratitude that just springs up unannounced, not only for the wonderful moments of life, but for the peace and contentment.
• Pleasure and joy in the peace and wellbeing of family and friends
• Compassion that can’t help but pour out as love and care at the sight of pain, whether individual or collective, as in disasters
• A deep love for our beautiful planet and its peoples.
• Certainty abou the unlimited possibilities for myself and the world.

Some habits I consciously put into place … like more balance in my life, or more conscientious tidying as I go along. But mostly, just setting the direction seems to take you there. Many things just change as we are reunited with our true being, the person we came to be … for me the person I would have been without all the traumas along the way. (Except I have an inkling that I put them all there, just so I could find a way through, have an adventure, and then share the learning).

….And if you are struggling, and need more certainty, you can read my story from childhood dilemmas, and the steps along the way, until discovering and working with POV and its brilliant model.

To celebrate my ‘coming of age’ I have started my website for wise women to share their learning and insights, developing a library of hints and tips that may save a few hundred years around the world. Please contribute!!

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