Life Manual Newsletter No. 7
If you are already familiar with Psychology of Vision, through workshops and trainings, you will be very familiar with this word ‘process’. ‘Trust the process’, is a useful reminder when we are resisting what is coming up for us in life, rather than seeing it as something to deal with or heal. With time, it actually becomes exciting, because we have developed the habit of knowing that behind every boulder is a gift, a new insight, or step on our journey to a new way of being. Seeing crisis as opportunity, is part of the new habits we all seek in personal development or healing. When the mind begins to automatically seek the solution or answer, rather than getting embroiled in the problem, we know we are well on our way to the happiness and success we seek. But that is a process, not something to drive ourselves to or beat ourselves up for!
A personal example was the process of accepting response-ability. I had spent many years searching for methods that really worked to bring about change in my life, and I had tried many. When I started attending a few Psychology of Vision workshops, I wanted to know and understand the range of ‘tools’ available to me, to bring about change. That’s when Jeff asked me to use my teaching skills to created Life Manual, so more people could learn to use these tools.
Begin at Your Comfort Zone
I found the concept of Accountability and Responsibility really challenging and struggled with it. I had a habit of driving and beating myself up, and these concepts presented another opportunity. After a while, I decided, OK, this is the level I comfortably accept responsibility and I gave it a percentage, say 60%. Many of us blame ourselves for everything at deeper levels of our mind. I think finding that comfort zone, ‘take what you want, leave the rest’ is very important. Our personal development needs to come from our willingness to move forward, not another place where the independents among us push ourselves to death. And no, to the dependents among us, this is not the same as sitting in victim mode blaming everything on everybody else!!!
What I found, was that my accountability percentage shifted, as gradually I was willing to take more responsibility, in a natural growth process. An important aspect of personal development process is that we develop new attitudes and habits, so we are truly living differently. It’s about increasing the range of our choices, the effective tools we have to deal with what comes up in our lives, until we are walking a different path…more
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